Have a baby.
Don't worry, we're not on the brink of the D word, but it's just been really tough lately. Add in the fact that all 3 of us are sick, no one is sleeping, we both work full-time and are trying to figure out who is responsible for what, and we sort of miss the freedom we used to have.
We don't do anything with just the two of us anymore. If we want to do something, one goes out and does it while the other one stays with Cohen. We just take turns doing the things we used to do together, like biking, grocery shopping, going to the dog races, sailing, and looking for buried treasure. Since he was born, we've only been out together one time. (Any family members wanting to move to Salt Lake City would be appreciated).
I just can't believe some people think that having a baby with someone will make things better for their relationship. They couldn't be further from the truth.
But don't worry about us. We'll get through this. It's just temporary, unlike that tattoo Cohen got.
you should discuss with breanne about moving to Salt Lake. They are still trying to get comfortable and settled why not move to Salt lake with you guys. Breanne is still trying to find a job and should could be with Cohen while you are at work and help you out whenever you need her...of course this is me volunteering her time...hope things get better for you!
ReplyDeleteAmen! I think of the couples that I know that had a baby to bring them closer and I just cringe! It is so hard on everyone, most of all the marriage, I think. My postpartum depression was in the form of anger towards Greg. No clue why, I was just SO SO angry at him all the time (you know how new moms can think of harming their babies - not me, I loved Addie, it was Greg who I wanted to harm!). And going back to work and renegotiating household/baby responsibilities wasn't any easier. Luckily it has gotten a lot better now and we are actually enjoying each other again. BTW - bring Cohen over to play with Addie and go for a bike ride - together! We would love the company!
ReplyDeleteEvery season of life brings SO many challenges. I can seriously remember being nearly psychotic from sleep deprivation and pure exhaustion when our kids were infants and toddlers. Hang in there, my friend. You will grow stronger and wiser from all the experiences you are going through. And we (Chad and I) would take Cohen anytime you and Christian would like a break or some time together. I'm serious, ANYTIME. We are very experienced with cute, but fussy little turds. :)
ReplyDeleteSo true, so true. Really, that's all I can think of to say. In my case...whose bright idea was it to have a third? Cam might not make it through this pregnancy, let alone the baby that comes with it.
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